backhanded compliment

what might at first sound like a compliment but could/should really be taken as an insult when considered in its entirety.
the republican senator would never desecrate the holy inst-tution of marriage by voting to allowing gays to wed; just ask his ex.
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an insult disguised as a compliment
“no, honey…i love yours. i don’t even like them big.”
“relax, sweetie…you were perfectly adequate.”
“your haircut really slims your face.”
since michael is a pompous pr-ck, i think i’ll give him a backhanded compliment.
when a new acquaintance ends an interaction with a cleverly delivered phrase, leaving you confused about their feelings towards you. many times a shrewd tactic used by women to get men emotionally invested and intrigued in them.
off duty paramedic: well it was nice to meet you claudia, but i must go now.

claudia the nurse: sir, i sincerely hope i never have to deal with you professionally. -smiles-

off duty paramedic: well that’s not very… oh i get it! haha. take care! -walking away and scratching head-

claudia the nurse (under her breath): got um 🙂

later on a call

paramedic: man, i can’t stop thinking about that nurse claudia from st. thomas. she schooled me with that backhanded compliment. i’m so confused. is she attracted to me? that is the question.

partner: huh!?! what the h-ll are you talking about??! this man is in cardiac arrest!! do something! this is my first shift and you’re the senior paramedic here! omg what do i do?! what do i do!?????

-beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep-

paramedic: i think i’m gonna call her tonight. yeah. definitely gonna call her. those lips… hmmm. hey rookie, fill out the incident report will you? -sings- k k k claudiaaaaaa.. .k k k claudia… mmm mmmmm

partner:………(shedding tears)
any compliment a gay man gives to another gay man. usually to cause drama.
i can make a fire with some wood and a backhanded compliment.