ex-gay

a person who goes through a christian ministry designed to convert them from h-m-seuxality to heteros-xuality. most psychological and psychiatric professionals believe such ministries to be ineffective and actually dangerous to the psyches of ex-gays.
“isn’t it sad that most ex-gay spokespeople have been exposed secretly having gay s-x or hanging out in gay bars?”
an ex-gay is someone with a h-m-s-xual orientation who typically enters a conversion program / ministry / therapy in an attempt to become heteros-xual. not all (but most) conversion programs are religiously based.

although there is no question one’s behavior and how they view themselves may change, there is a great deal of controversy if an ex-gay’s core s-xual orientation and attractions can ever change. many ex-gays are little more than celibate h-m-s-xuals who continue to struggle while others are now married to members of the opposite s-x and have “traditional” appearing families.

ex-gays are disproportionally white, male and christian. however conversion programs exist for secular and jewish individuals as well as lesbians.
randy was once an out gay man but has since left that, entered conversion therapy and is now an ex-gay and married to a woman.

alternate spelling for ex-gay.
randy was once an out gay man but has since left that, entered a conversion ministry and is now an exgay and married to a woman.
the term “exgay” is a socio-political derivative of the term “gay”. in the sixties, american h-m-s-xuals adopted use of the term gay in an attempt to reduce or destroy the negative psychological and perhaps religious connotations, -ssociated with the word h-m-s-xual. thus, the word gay helped to form a “positive” image necessary for the advancement of political goals.

no one is sure how the term “exgay” first became to be applied to men and women who made choices to no longer desire h-m-s-xual activity or ident-ty, but the term stuck and is now widely used by h-m-s-xual activists –primarily in mocking quotes– to indicate they do not believe such change in behavior or thought is possible.
exgay is, for the many who do believe that the choice to change is possible, an uncomfortable expression of who they are (and are becoming). the great majority of exgays believe their change to be the product of religious belief and faith rather than socio-political posturing. this includes those from jewish, muslim and non-evangelical christianity belief groups.

because the majority of former h-m-s-xuals attribute their change to religious conversion, the term exgay has no such applicable identification with religion in its fundamental usage.
linda has been exgay for 13 years.
someone that used to be bi or gay
so you used to like it up the -ss but now you’re an ex-gay?
someone who chooses to no longer have intimate interactions with those of the same gender and orientation. this person may also pursue heteros-xual relationships in the process.

gary used to have a boyfriend, but he dumped his boyfriend because he is now ex-gay.